Questions to Ask

1. Are you often emotional, i.e. offended, angry, etc.?
2. Do you always think you are right?
3. Do you feel that you should not or can not back down from anything?
4. Do you find you dislike someone when the refute you?
5. Do you feel disrespected, challenged, or insulted?
6. Do you feel the desire/need to be "right?"
7. Do you seek excuses to dismiss the word, view or deed of others?
8. Do you seek excuses to validate your word, view, or deeds?
9. Do you feel it important to preserve core beliefs and self-image at all costs?
10. Do you often feel others are dismissing or ignoring your ideas, actions or performance?
11. Do you feel the need to get the "last lick in" on others?
12. Do you find yourself giving "slight, but malicious disgs or comments" to others?
13. Do you know when to stop or how to stop the escalation of conflict?
14. Do you look at someone backing down as an opportunity to attach/punish?
15. Do you perceive any challenge as a loss of status?

If you find yourself answering yes to any or all of these questions you may want to contemplate your practice and training.